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Not me. But then again could be
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I've been thinking about things I wish I knew when I was younger, now that I am firmly ensconced in geezerhood. Perhaps this is a message, in part, to the younger me?
The TV series "Leave it to Beaver" was pure fiction, the 1950s were never like that. People were just as messed up in the 1950s, it was just hidden better. Still, it was a good clean show for kids. But the pattern was not the reality.
As a male, when it comes to women, you are a means to an end, a family. Sure they love you enough to want you, but when tough times come, you will be blamed. Civilization is kept alive by females. It's repopulated by females. They will never be as romantic about you as you are of them. You are a useful asset. You can lift things, fix things and open jars. Women are very pragmatic. You'll have to come to terms with that. Women can and do out plan, out scheme any man they live with. They pick up on nuances that you do not. Pay attention to what they pay attention to, you may just find it helps you. In western countries you will not get credit for your efforts. That may change over time in society but it won't be in your generation. You will be tested as to every boundary simply because women want to know what you are made of. Love yourself. Be kind to yourself. Respect yourself and stand your ground when you need to do so. Ignore the market banter for what is important.
It's a lot harder to get unmarried than married. Society has made marriage a greased slide into a legal union so make sure you know the person you are about to marry. Religion will not guarantee you a good marriage. In some cases it may inhibit it, depending on the severity of the faith and its response to human sex drives. Marriage is a three party contract between you, your mate and the state. That's what gives the state the power to decide what to do with your assets and children on divorce. Divorce doesn't cancel the contract, it amends it.
Earth marriages are not perfect, but it can be a good place for kids to grow up, depending on the parents. If your marriage is a bad one, leave it. Your child will blame you for the trauma they feel, but they will also do that if you stay for 20 years and then leave. You will not be thanked for enduring. There is no good way to end a marriage. Do not expect your child to side with you, they are after all, 1/2 the person you married. But sometimes you have to leave for your own well being and health. There is only so much contention a person can withstand. Passive aggressiveness is also its own form of contention more akin to Chinese water torture. It is not love. It's the ice pick in the night to the tire of manliness.
If you are into science, go for deeper science behind Engineering and Electronics. Learn logic, then learn its pardoxical pitfalls, which underlay all of law, religion, and government. AI will replace much of what we know as computer coding. It's already doing so. But the mental discipline and logic training will train you mentally. You'll see through psyops and disinformation.
Learn languages. As many as you can, but at the very least the ones you are likely to encounter in your country and places you'd like to spend time in.
Exercise regularly, even if it's just walking. Take up some form of regular stretching whether it's yoga, tai chi, or pilates. Being flexible and limber becomes really important after age 55. If you smoke, take Vitamin C as cigarettes consume Vitamin C which is why smokers tend to get more wrinkles and have aging skin. Vitamin C is essential for collagen creation.
Avoid wheat, especially American wheat. Travelers know this well, you can lose 20 pounds in just a few weeks by going to Europe. The wheat genetics are different there. Learn to eat sparingly. This one I have known since I kept tropical and reef aquariums, fish fed every other day live longer and healthier than those fed daily. Not that I followed that, but as you age you need less food, but proteins remain important.
Birthdays age you more than calendar years because it's a mental countdown on how you are supposed to look at a given age. You didn't come into this world with an expiration date stamped on your butt. The natural human life span in this galaxy in a stress free and pollution free environment is around 200-300 years. Perhaps longer.
Be happy, it's a choice. Every emotion is a choice as to its duration. Don't avoid emotions, let the negative ones flow through you, feel them but don't attach. Let them go. Be very careful with anger, if maintained it will tear your body apart.
That's just what is coming off the top of my head at the moment. This article will likely get refined a bit over the next few days.
I love you all!
PS: My brother broke his leg and is the hospital rehab in Salt Lake City for the next month. We have very similar bodies. Please send him healing energy for rapid bone repair and balance. My youngest brother is heading there next week to move him to a ground floor apartment.
